e e cummings

Colby liked the poet e e cummings, mostly, I believe, because cummings wrote many poems in lower case and with little, if any, punctuation. Colby hated punctuation. He felt it was limiting, and who is to say he was wrong? Words aren't always for the writer to convey. Sometimes they are for the reader to interpret.

Here's the beginning one of Colby's favorites:


why must itself up every of a park
why must itself up every of a park
anus stick some quote statue unquote to
prove that a hero equals any jerk
who was afraid to dare to answer "no"?

Here's a favorite of mine:

i carry your heart with me
i carry your heart with me
(i carry it in my heart)
i am never without it
(anywhere i go you go, my dear; and whatever is done
by only me is your doing, my darling)
i fear
no fate (for you are my fate, my sweet)
i want
no world (for beautiful you are my world, my true)
and it's you are whatever a moon has always meant
and whatever a sun will always sing is you

here is the deepest secret nobody knows
(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky of a tree called life; which grows
higher than the soul can hope or mind can hide)
and this is the wonder that's keeping the stars apart

i carry your heart (i carry it in my heart)

ee cummings

Writings

I try to pinpoint what I miss most about Colby. It is everything. Absolutely everything. But one of many specific things I miss is conversation with him. Colby was a wonderful conversationalist. I miss that. I miss talking to him. I miss hearing his thoughts, his viewpoints, his ideas. In the absence of speech, I have bits and pieces of his writing. Colby was not a writer like I am. Instead, he was a poet, a lyricist, a songwriter. But his writings are a glimpse into his inner soul, for he only wrote about what truly mattered to him.

Instead of using one notebook, Colby had the habit of writing down lines for poems, thoughts, and songs on pieces of scrap paper, or a page or two of many notebooks. Over the past months I have found a number of these bits of writing. I have seen many of them before, but some are new to me. The writings remind me who Colby was at his core, and they keep his thoughts and beliefs fresh in my mind. For example:

Even if I make a mil

I’ll still buy my clothes at Goodwill

Those simple words remind me of Colby’s dedication to recycling, of using something completely and not throwing it away if it still had some life, or in this case some wear, left in it. Colby felt we use too many of our natural resources and do not value enough what the Earth provides. In that, I believe he was right.

Society is in rapid decay

With the crime rate soaring

People are running wild

Greed, power, food additives

A giant corporation

Controls every aspect of

Society from war to entertainment

To organ transplants

Everything is polluted

Life has never been cheaper

Like the lines above, much of Colby’s writing was about unfairness, injustice, and problems in our society. Colby was about valuing human life, finding meaning in our days, and living a life filled with natural products. Someday I will compile his thoughts, his written words. We can all find something of value in them, some thing to think about. But for now I will continue to search for and save them, and revel in each new find.

Changes

Having a child die changes a parent in ways too countless to mention. I am not the same person I was before Colby passed and am still trying to find out who the "new me" is. One change is that I am more drawn to poetry than I was before. I have no idea why. Maybe it is that people send me poems I relate closely to, or that in my counseling sessions I find poets and poetry that become personal to me.

The following poem hits close to home because more than nine months after Colby passed many people are surprised that I am still grieving. They do not understand that most parents who lose children grieve for the rest of their lives. Life for them and for me will never be the same as it was "before," no matter how much we want it to be.

They Think I'm Fine and Over it
By Lyndie Sorenson © 2008

They think I'm fine and over it
Accepted that you died
But I live life with all this pain
And countless tears I've cried

I am forced to live with endless pain
That others can't accept
They think I'm fine and over it
Or that I'll soon forget

I want to scream from rooftops
Or silently just cry
I never will be over it
My God my child died!

It makes no sense to argue
My energy is low
So when they think I'm over it
I simply tell them No

I've become what they have wanted
A turtle in it's shell
Just keep my thought within myself
And never ever tell

I mask my life to others
To myself as well
For living every day on Earth
Is surely more like Hell

Simply put I won't get over it
Not better...stronger... fine
It is only that I've had no choice...
To live this life of mine

In loving memory of Joey and his heavenly buddies

Poetry

Someone sent me this poem today. I do not know the poet, but her words express my feelings exactly. I could not have said it better if I tried.

Silver Tears
by Louise Lagerman


And so it begins
Silver tears falling like soft rain
Cascading downward on it's sad journey
Arriving at my empty soul and shattered heart
The silver tears come because we are apart
I try to see the beauty in things
I yearn to be . . . near the warm sun
I listen for laughter and beauty
but the sliver tears just bide their time
for they know
that behind every smile
every warm embrace
The reality of you being gone
will let the silver tears escape
and so it begins

© Louise Lagerman

Lyrics

Today I find lyrics Colby wrote. Or maybe it was a poem, but I believe these words were written for music. It is hard to tell when he composed this. All his notebooks are jumbled together, and there are scraps of paper with writing, music, lyrics, poems, mixed in with boxes of t-shirts and books and DVDs. Colby's handwriting didn't change much from the time he was about 14, so he probably wrote this sometime in the last ten years, but most likely in the last  2 or 3. I'm not sure if he was finished with this or not, but the words are so true to who Colby was, to what Colby believed, that I want to share them with you.

This is for the homeless, this is for the poor
This is for the people who don't love anymore
This is for the beggars. the forgotten saints
This is for the kids sparing change

This is for the hungry, this is for the weak
This is for those who come out at night who get no sleep
This is for those who never had a chance

Steve went to Vietnam
Drafted to kill for Uncle Sam
When it was over he had survived
But he did not care to live or die

He drinks all day to kill the pain
The merriness of so many, slain
No dollar to his name, just the shirt on his back
He owns nothing, just a pair of socks and a flashback

It don't matter much when you suffer from shellshock

Now you're out, out on your own
Can't find a friend, you're all alone
No goodness or light, no hope or dreams
No happiness or future for you to see

You got no food, you got no clothes
Can't find no shelter, got no where to go

© Colby Keegan